Why do I love jealousy and what to do with that complex feeling? And why you will love it too after reading this article?
Why do I love the complex feeling of jealousy? And why you will love it too? Being jealous- and envious too- is associated with Zodiac sing Scorpio, and as we all have Scorpio somewhere in your natal chart, we have jealousy and envy in us to some extent.
Let’s talk about the elephant in the room.
To my mind, jealousy is nothing less and nothing more than a guiding light. It is a great practical “tool” for knowing yourself better.
I am totally concerned, that whatever you are jealous of is exactly what you have a desire for, it is what you want in life regardless of whether you admit it or not.
Why?
You will never be jealous of someone or something that you have no desire for.
Let me explain…
Let’s suppose your neighbor has a shining new supercar- that you might not even notice- but you feel jealous when he is sharing epic stories about his frequent trips around the world.
Or you don’t even care about your friend’s beautiful love story and stable marriage, but his career advancement or outstanding career achievements cause you to feel jealous, and insecure around him, and it awakens many other feelings in you, such as competitiveness, rivalry, and bitterness.
Or the opposite, you feel jealous every time you see your neighbor going out with her husband and it is clearly visible they are deeply in love with each other, while you don’t even care about her career opportunities or outstanding inheritance?!
Does it inspire or motivate you to work harder, or change jobs to have the same luxurious materials? Or does someone else’s career achievements inspire you to achieve more? To have more impact on the world?
It is ok. We are humans with a beating heart and with different emotions. You can consider emotions as information.
Jealousy is your friend. If you use it with the right consciousness and you are willing to be brutally honest with yourself. You will know yourself deeply, and you will know what direction you want to go with your life.
Don’t suppress it, don’t ignore it but understand it. And just sit with it without feeling bitter and having self-loathing thoughts.
Or deep down is it just sort of a fear? Fear that you will miss out on something?
So what makes you jealous? Recently what did awaken this complex feeling in you?
Or what if you don’t know what you want at all? It happens to all of us at some point in our lives. Then watch what makes you jealous, and what triggers it. Just mull over and you will get closer to yourself, you will know yourself better.
Let’s take it a step further.
On a side note, Dan Ariely, professor of psychology and behavior economics states in his book Predictably Irrational: “Most people don’t know what they want unless they see it in context.”
Let’s suppose you use your jealousy with the right consciousness, and you are honest with yourself and use it as a guiding light. Now you know the direction you want to go.
However, it is so easy to fall short and develop a desire for what we have seen already. But the harder thing is to use our imagination to create a different life or reality for ourselves that we may have never seen.
How to handle jealousy to not lose your peace of mind?
Well, one thing you should know is that comparing our lives to others doesn’t really make sense from an astrological perspective. we all have different natal charts and, therefore different paths in life. With different timings, different opportunities, different setbacks, and different challenges. And the sooner you accept that life is not fair, the better you will feel about yourself.
The other thing is that you don’t know anyone’s full story. Most of the time you only know a sneak-peak and make some conclusions to yourself. Similarly, you don’t see anyone’s whole path of life, only the status quo or some things from the past. However, you don’t know your entire life story either, only what is behind you so far. So comparing our life to others doesn’t make sense.
Moreover, feeling jealousy is one of the most negative feelings, a very *low vibe*, if you will. Once I’ve heard from a spiritual guru is that when you are jealous of someone’s fortune you basically take the negativity of that person. Im not sure if this is true, though, it sounds bad.
If you forget about yourself for a second and look around and see that many many people in the past and still to this day had to accept and get peace with so many difficult, traumatizing, and heartbreaking situations. Most probably yours is nowhere near as bad…
Btw accepting what you cannot change and developing a mature attitude and patience are Saturn’s favorite virtues.
Are you still with me?
Jealousy in a romantic relationship
I know, you are thinking to yourself now what to do with jealousy in a romantic relationship. That feels as if it was eating you alive and slowly you are losing your sanity.
I must admit, this is a much deeper topic, but here we go.
Well, a lot of romantic relationships and marriages- especially at a young age- are nothing short of but an avalanche of lessons, and *a source of hard-earned wisdom*.
If you are experiencing jealousy in your relationship or marriage and you are honest with yourself, there are two possible scenarios. One is that you have a much deeper issue, probably a childhood wound, or insecurities, or abandonment issue, or certain fears or other issues- who doesn’t have a few of these??– that is just awakened and needs healing. These issues require professional help and therapeutic healing. Though it is worth the effort, mind you.
The other possible scenario is that you are just wasting your time with a toxic monster whose behavior makes you jealous.
Life is too short to live with psychological issues, to carry the pain of childhood wounds, and most probably the jealousy you experience in your relationship is just a *guiding light* of your issues.
Honey, everyone has issues and fears.
Jealousy in a romantic relationship is just a symptom of a much much deeper issue. It just shows your deepest wounds or insecurities, or maybe maybe that is the *sign* that your partner should not be in your life. You know the answer.
Final thoughts
Jealousy is your friend; it is one powerful emotion. You can use it to know yourself better and to use it as a source of inspiration and motivation. Or you can use your imagination to create a different reality for yourself. As with everything in life, everything depends on your consciousness. And most probably that is what the world really needs, people with more imagination and proper consciousness.
If you feel lost, have no direction in life, or don’t know what you want, just see what you are jealous of, and what makes you jealous and you will know the direction. You will immediately know what kind of goals to set for yourself.
Do you agree that jealousy can be your BFF? What do you think?
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LD says
never thought about jealousy this way, but makes sense! ty
Margot says
Interesting point of view indeed! I don’t know if it comes with age, or else but lately nothing can make me jealous…