Why should you stop saving people from an astrological perspective? And what can you do instead?
If you have a heavy Pisces energy in your natal chart, or you have a prominent Neptune (Neptune on an angle), or Neptune aspects to personal planets, you are probably prone to saving people. And that is a beautiful personality trait, to be compassionate, to care for others, and to pay attention to others.
Pisces people and people with a strong Neptune influence in their charts are known to sacrifice themselves. They are always ready and willing to sacrifice their time, energy, or money to help others. Interestingly enough, they are the ones who experience miraculous developments and manifestations in their lives. However, helping and saving a person are two entirely different matters. (And this is the reason people aren’t ashamed of taking advantage of them, but that is a different topic.)
One of the most precious lessons I’ve learned from spiritual teachers- and from life- is to stop saving people. Probably the toughest thing to do when you really love someone, and you can’t help them, or you should not even try to save them.
I do believe now that everyone has the right to live their own life as they want. People have the right to ruin their own lives too. Similarly, everyone needs to go through some tough and painful lessons of some sort.
We are not Mother Theresa to be on the quest to save everyone we encounter, and not even our loved ones.
For real.
You might think to yourself now that you really want to save your best friend from marrying a narcissistic monster. Or you wish you could open your daughter’s eyes in order to stop dating that dead broke, toxic guy. And you are looking for ways to help them and save them. Or you keep on lending money to your friend, who is unable to handle money or earn his bread.
That is a normal reaction. But we cannot and should not just interfere in someone’s movie. Even if that person is your best friend, your child, your father, your mother, etc.
This might sound fairly uncompassionate.
However, everyone has their own “movie.” Again, to my mind, probably they need those lessons. They need those lessons and situations to experience and go through.
Are you with me?
I’m not going to beat around the bush, the truth is, that we humans only learn from pain and suffering. I have barely seen a person learning from good times, or fortunate events. But how many times I’ve seen people learning from the most painful lessons?!
Be honest with yourself for a second. Perhaps you also learned some tough lessons in the past, and you needed them to be who you are now. Probably the same is happening with your loved ones that you want to save.
I know it’s so painful to watch them ignore the red flags or even watch them suffer.
In case, they ask for your help or your opinion; that is an entirely different matter.
So what can you do instead?
Save yourself. Help yourself. Be busy making the most out of your life. It might be inspiring for others. Be a good example. Engage with your own life. It doesn’t mean that you neglect others.
You can’t talk sense to your loved one’s head if he/she is not ready to listen.
The other thing you can do is to let your loved one know that you are on their side no matter what. Make sure they know that they have someone to turn to when they need it. Show them what unconditional love is. To my mind, this is the most helpful you can do for your loved ones.
In a nutshell
Everyone has their own movie, their own unique path of life with their own lessons. Therefore, you cannot and should not interfere in their “movie”. Those lessons are in their lives for a reason. However, you can be there for them while you are living your best life.
What do you think? Do you agree? Let’s have a chat in the comments below!
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