Do you want to be a popular and likable person, or do you want to have a more peaceful and easier life? Do you want to create more positivity in your life? The solution is closer and easier than you might think. All you must do is just say goodbye to being ~judgmental~.
Let me explain…
If you are into astrology, you know that we all have different natal charts. Therefore, we all have different lives. However, everyone has some specific areas of life that are more rough and feel like an uphill battle, and some are effortless and easily manageable subjects of life.
Though we all have Saturn somewhere with delays and obstacles, and we all have Jupiter somewhere in our natal chart where we are truly blessed, and we can enjoy some gifts from life that we didn’t have to work for. We all have different Moons and, therefore different emotional needs.
Right?
How many times did it happen to you that you were judging someone for being stuck in a situation and can’t move forward with that? Or how many times have you thought to yourself that you could have managed and handled the issues someone was dealing with for a very long time? However, you could not solve your own issues.
The easiest thing to judge others. Everyone can do it. and, truth is, everyone does to some extent. I must admit, I am not an exception, with my many planets in Sagittarius- I know, I know it is not an excuse-, sometimes I catch myself being judgmental too.
Let’s get real for a sec…
…and let me tell you some real-life examples from my professional and private life experiences.
For example, the young woman who has a Neptune-Venus square aspect in her natal chart. Even though she is smart, and well-educated with a good-paying job, when it comes to romantic relationships or even affairs, she is clueless and so confused. It looks like she is walking in a fog, and she can’t even see, what others can. Basically, she has no idea with whom she is dating, or they are dating at all, or what is going on with her and the “dating partner”. Not to mention the limerence– that is a serious mental issue- with this aspect, and the daydreaming that is potentially ruining her life.
Imagine, if you were her friend. What could you do? Talk sense to her? With this Neptune aspect? Nope. Just wait, wait for her to finally have some realizations.
It is so easy to judge her. But for her, this Neptune-Venus hard aspect is the most challenging thing to overcome. and no matter how painful it is to watch her even, no one can help her. To my mind, Neptune’s hard aspects are the most difficult to overcome.
Agree?
Or given a man who had everything one could wish for when he was in his early twenties. He was already married, had two children, and owned some real estate. That sounds like a really good beginning of a prosperous life, doesn’t it?
Well, I happen to know that he has South Node-Ketu- in his 2nd house, and Saturn in the 8th house. Once he reached, the age of 50, he basically lost literally everything. South Node in the 2nd house is really difficult to manage because it empties the financial house and empties the possessions and assets. And it is combined with Saturn in the 8th house in conjunction with the North Node. What happened with him, is he took a loan from a bank, North Node in the 8th house wants access to other people’s money. While Saturn is there, so he could never pay it back. Therefore, he had to take some other loans, but he could never pay them back either, so he lost everything he had at a young age.
No judging, from a higher perspective, these experiences purified his soul and he had to go through some ego-undermining situations that led him to some serious character-building.
It would be so easy to judge him. The truth is, in this lifetime this is what he “had to” experience, and to go through.
Period.
I’ve seen a woman with Saturn in the 11th house in her natal chart. Until the age of 36, she had to work really hard for very little money. She was happy to bring bread to the table and didn’t even dream about buying some new clothes, or even a body lotion for years (!!!). Even though Saturn loves to be in the 11th house, at a young age it creates blockages, obstacles, and delays. Saturn in her 11th house basically delayed being gainful, and she didn’t even have one friend. Having friends is also an 11th house matter. However, later in life, once Saturn matured, she mastered being gainful, slowly, very slowly, and now she is over 50 and financially in a much better state than others in her social circle.
It was tempting to judge her, for not being gainful, or for not managing her money well. And I heard how embarrassing it was for her every time she had to spend money on something that she could barely afford, such as a new t-shirt even though she was working hard even on weekends too.
Are you with me?
Similarly, I have seen women with Saturn-Venus hard aspect. They were really good catches. Pretty, and kind, had good jobs, they were coming from good families, and had friends. The fulfillment of Venus was delayed for them. At a young age in their twenties and early thirties, they had no chance to have a romantic relationship, let alone get married. Once finally they began dating someone, they went through so many painful, disappointing situations that were really heartbreaking to hear about.
How many times have I heard others were judging them, that they must do something really wrong? Nope. They did nothing wrong. They just had to overcome the Saturn-Venus hard aspect. (Or “payback” some heavy karmic debt.) And as a woman, especially at a young age Saturn-Venus hard aspect is probably one of the most painful planetary placements.
It is so easy to judge. As I said earlier, we all have different lives, different challenges, different skills, different natural talents, different karma- if you believe in karma.
Why is it crucial to be non-judgmental? Or to stop judging others?
Well, I observed too that life has a sense of humor.
Do you know what happens when you judge someone?
You literally, take their negativity from them, and very soon you develop the same challenges, or personality traits that you are judging in others.
This is so funny to observe.
If you judge someone for not being able to lose weight, rest assured very soon you will gain weight that you can’t lose.
If you judge someone for dating a dead broke guy, you can bet on it that very soon you will date a dead broke guy. Or your husband/boyfriend won’t provide for you. Seriously, Im not kidding.
It works like a spell, or magic, so to speak.
If you judge someone for having financial issues for so long, you can bet your socks that very soon you will have some financial issues too.
This is no joke.
There is a saying that there are only two types of people. The humble ones, and those who will be humble.
Wrapping it up
Being cool is so easy these days, you just need to do a little bit better than others.
The number one reason judging others doesn’t make sense is because we face different challenges, we have different issues, different opportunities, and most importantly different timings. We all have different lives. What is easy and feels like second nature for one person, the same thing can be the most daunting thing to do for another person. We are like snowflakes; we are all different.
The other reason you want to stop judging others is that you don’t want to connect to that energy. Otherwise, you develop the same issues, traits, and challenges in your life that you are judging in others.
Imagine a world where people would be less judgmental, and more compassionate to each other. It would be literally heaven on earth. Which personality trait is cooler than to be a non-judgmental, compassionate, and understanding human being? Once you stop judging others, watch how quickly you gain instant popularity.
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Nelly says
Can not agree more!!
RB says
Agree Niki! Can’t even vibe with judgmental people anymore. Thank you for this article!
Tommy says
Yes ma’am! I’ve noticed too when judging someone karma comes back asap. Lol