Do you have Saturn Venus hard aspect in your natal chart? If Saturn and Venus are friends, why do these planets, when forming an aspect, bring disappointment and pain to the natives in romantic relationships? Are those women who have them in their natal chart doomed? And when does the better manifestation of these two planets come?
The hard aspects of Saturn
Every hard aspect – conjunction, opposition, and square-of Saturn is rather painful and a source of disappointment. All the domains that are connected to Venus, which is in a hard aspect with Saturn, are challenging for the natives. Those are the so-called- significant lessons of life. The Saturn Venus hard aspects are no exceptions.
More often than not, when Saturn and Venus form in a difficult aspect, the native is deprived of happy romantic relationships, marriage, and good finances, and struggles with developing healthy self-worth. The silver lining is that after the first Saturn return (age of 28-29) and when Saturn matures (age of 35-36), these subjects of life get better.
Still, by learning Saturn’s lessons and mastering this difficult aspect, you can speed up the process and make Saturn and Venus work together in your favor.
Saturn and Venus are NOT enemies!
Before we jump headfirst into the practical remedies for Saturn and Venus’s difficult aspects in the female chart, let’s take a closer look at Venus and Saturn to grasp the essence and purpose of their hard aspects fully.
Even though Saturn and Venus are friends before Saturn matures (age of 36), especially before the first Saturn return (age of 28-29), they don’t work well together, or the opposite, Saturn brings some hard-learned lessons to Venus. How it all plays out in the native’s life, who has a Saturn –Venus challenging aspect- depends on what these planets rule in their chart and their dignity.
In a male chart, it is a bit different. The native attracts either older women- Saturn represents older people and the age gap- or pained and hurtful women with whom he cannot create a beautiful relationship.
Venus- the planet of love and all the finer things in life
The planet Venus’s main domains are love, romantic relationships, marriage, finances, and everything sweet and beautiful, and it is the ruling planet of women.
Venus rules everything that makes our lives sweeter, more pleasant, and even more comfortable. For example, Venus rules from all the beautiful clothes, makeup, luxurious holidays, beauty treatments, dates, jewelry, romances, and last but not least Venus is the primary money planet.
Basically, Venus rules all the material impressions, that one can show off, or consider as the source of happiness. Who doesnt consider- at least a certain period of their lives- money, pleasures, beauty, nice cars, designer clothes, and bags, holidays in high-end places as a source of happiness and joy?
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Saturn is the strict teacher of the Zodiac.
Planet Saturn rules karma, karmic debt, fears, coldness, hard work, tough lessons, being mature, and taking responsibility, obstacles, delays, restrictions, and limitations.
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As Saturn rules karma, every Saturn aspect is karmic. When Saturn and Venus form a hard aspect, the karmic debt can be anything from previous lifetimes or this lifetime. Such as the native behaving irresponsibly in relationships, neglecting the partner, having some painful experiences due to a spouse, or having karmic debt that she has to “pay back” the karmic debt.
This hard aspect can play out as repeating some mistakes in Venus domains– regarding relationships and finances too. Or the Venus domains are limited and restricted in the native’s life. Such as being deprived of romantic relationships, affection, or pleasures, struggling with money, having self-worth issues, having to work hard for every penny, and having no time for enjoyment.
Regardless of how painful and difficult this Saturn-Venus hard aspect is at a young age, always keep in mind that Saturn and Venus are friends.
Meaning: after a certain age, most probably after the first Saturn return, the subject of life, which is under the influence of Venus, improves. Especially once the native learned those “Saturnian” lessons.
Whatever Saturn touches, it wants the native to master that subject of life. Once the natives master their relationships, finances, self-worth, and other Venus domains, they can harvest the fruits of their effort.
Romance, love, marriage
As Saturn starves Venus, the natives who have one of these aspects are deprived of love or romantic experiences at a young age. If they have a romantic relationship or marriage, it is rather cold, without affection, PDA, romance, and gifts. With this aspect, it is also more than likely that the person can’t find a relationship for a long time, but has to work long hours, has a lot of duties and responsibilities, and is deprived of the pleasures of life. The other possible scenario is that if the native has a romantic relationship or marriage, it is karmic and can either feel like a prison, a heavy burden or it is rather dry and disappointing.
Saturn starves Venus. Therefore Venus cannot manifest and fulfill its own domains/promise. In a female chart, this is really a painful and difficult aspect, especially at a young age.
Or, at a young age, the native experiences painful break-ups, disappointment, and losses in romantic relationships. Or the native has no romantic relationship at all, which could also undermine the already low self-worth.
Those with these Saturn Venus conjunction, square, or opposition might feel misunderstood at a young age, lonely, and unable to see themselves as attractive.
Another possible scenario is that the native wasn’t loved enough and that pain stays with her. Or she wasn’t loved by either her parents or her partner.
The native feels unlovable and unworthy of a loving relationship or an equal partner. If she has a relationship, she chooses a partner(s) from a lower social ladder, poorer, less educated, or someone who mistreats her. Again, women with this hard aspect are even painful to watch.
Finances
Finances are the other main Venus’s domain, as Venus is the primary money planet. For those women who have Saturn Venus hard aspect, nothing is given to them for free; they have to work for everything. And sometimes, they experience poverty and must be frugal. Or they have to work much harder than others for way less money. Saturn resists the cash-flow too to the natives.
Finances, too, improve with age as Saturn matures.
Self-worth
Psychologically, self-worth directly influences finances and romantic relationships too. As you make as much money as you think you deserve for your work.
With low self-worth, these women attract low-quality partners, who treat them poorly, and their self-worth becomes even worse… To my mind, having a low self-worth and finding yourself in humiliating, hurtful, and disappointing situations are even more painful than not having a relationship, or having financial issues.
Probably the most painful part of this aspect is that the person doesn’t even realize for a long time that she was humiliated, not respected, sold herself short, or was taken advantage of. Even the realizations are so painful. It’s like stepping on a flower that hasn’t even bloomed yet. This aspect can break and unfortunately breaks women, especially at a young age.
With every Saturn cycle, this too changes for the better. And once a woman with a hard Saturn-venus aspect heals herself, heals her self-worth, confidence, and her femininity she literally speaks a different language. The emotional depth these women develop is something else.
Saturn and Venus are friends, mind you!
Once the native learns the lessons and Saturn matures, she can merit the better manifestation of these planets, which is having a long-lasting relationship or marriage with a REAL partner. Saturn can make everything long-lasting it touches.
The first significant positive shift happens with the native after the first Saturn return (age 28-29) and then when Saturn matures (age 35-36).
As self-worth improves, finances also improve, and the native becomes more feminine- as Venus is getting stronger. If you have this aspect, it is advisable to slowly, step by step heal your femininity, increase your self-worth, your confidence, and treat yourself kindly.
My personal experience with this aspect is, that the person develops a much more mature approach towards relationships than those who don’t have this hard aspect, and that is the reason later in life they can have a long-lasting relationship. I also noticed as women with this aspect are deprived of romances and romantic relationships they don’t do anything that they would regret later. In other words, this aspect can be a protection too, if someone is prone to do risky business, so to speak…
What can you do to soften the Saturn Venus hard aspects if you have one of them?
1. It’s better for them to marry later after the first Saturn return or at the age of 35-36. If they marry before the first Saturn return, it is karmic, and it will lead to divorce (and a very unhappy, loveless, dry marriage). Having a down-to-earth approach to relationships is key. Also advisable to learn to have realistic expectations in romantic relationships.
2. Learn to trust others. Those women with Saturn Venus hard aspect in the natal chart fear opening up in a relationship and trusting men.
The only way to make others feel closer to you is to trust others and vocalize your emotions.
3. Self-awareness. Developing self-awareness is vital, especially when you notice that you act cold or distant from others. It is ok to be vulnerable and gentle, mind you. However, these hard aspects can make you aloof, build an imaginary wall around you, and even be unapproachable.
4. As Saturn rules hard work and can be a career indicator, you can turn that Saturn Venus aspect into a career. Anything connected to fashion, the beauty industry, counseling, or helping women is great and has a healing influence on you.
5. Make sure you have time for fun activities. Make sure you rest enough and are not overwhelmed with work, duties, and responsibilities.
6. Strengthen your femininity and feminine energy. Wear feminine clothes and accessories. Wear anything that men cannot wear, such as floral dresses, high heels, jewelry, make-up, nail polish, etc. To make your Venus happy.
Being more gentle, soft, and warm also makes your Venus stronger. Being with your female friends, taking good care of yourself, and doing gentle sports are all fairly beneficial.
7. Probably the most important is to try to have good judgment of people. So you can trust yourself that you can make a good judgment of people and let the good ones into your life.
8. Happiness is inside of you not in Venus domains. With the Saturn-Venus hard aspect, you are deprived of all those beautiful domains that Venus rules, therefore you can’t treat them as an illusion, or you can’t consider them as a source of happiness, because those are restricted or even denied from you. What can you do? Look for happiness inside of you, the inner sense of bliss that does not depend on outer circumstances. Develop the inner sense of bliss, that you carry with you at all times. The bliss that you can rely on, no matter what is happening.
Final Thoughts
Having a hard Saturn Venus aspect can be as bad as it sounds. But it can turn into something beautiful. It can give you a lasting marriage after Saturn matures, better finances, and worldly achievements. Those hard-learned lessons make you appreciate every blessing you have so that you can keep your blessings. With every Saturn cycle, these subjects of life improve and have a positive shift.
You are not cursed! Your life gets better and easier with age. And remember, Saturn and Venus are friends!
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and wisdom to know the difference.– Reinhold Niebuhr, The Serenity Prayer
Sometimes acceptance is the best approach towards Saturn’s tough lessons.
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Ancsi says
Thank you Niki, this article is very helpful.
Frei says
Hello, is this about tropical or sidereal astrology?
Astroniki says
tropical
Jacqueline says
story of my life. but there is hope, only hope…